Flaking sucks big donkey balls!!!
In a recent article [I hope she flakes], the seduction artist, RooshV, came up with an interesting mind-hack to alleviate the pain of a girl flaking on you.
I thought this was pretty friggin’ ingenious to say the least!
““I have so many things to do that my schedule is always packed.
Every night before I go to bed I fill my next day’s to-do list full of tasks that will keep me busy for
the entire day.
Dates with girls disturb my work flow and set me back as much as half a day. While I do enjoy dates and want to have sex with girls, I also place great importance in completing my day’s work…””.
If you can’t see the genius in that, then you need to remove the fucking blinders fast!
Flaking is inevitable!
I don’t give a shit if your Game is as tight as a vise-grip. A girl standing you up on a date, or canceling [flaking] is 1 of those things that WILL and MUST happen.
In fact, the tighter your Game is, the more flakes you will have attracted [I’ll address this theory in a future post].
Therefore, having better Game and tighter skills are not the solutions to reducing flakes.
What you can do ahead of time in order to “deal with potential flakes much better”, is to do what Roosh does (which I’ll be doing from now on).
I (generally) don’t get offended whenever a girl flakes on me, for the simple fact that I know there’s a 68% chance that a girl will flake [from my experience].
However, when you enter into a situation (planned date) without respect for the flake (that it can’t happen to you)- when it does happen, you’ll become an emotional wreck, beat yourself up and despise the chic who flaked on you.
So flaking can and will happen to all of us.
That’s the first thing you should accept.
Preemptive measure is the best way to sum this up.
Let us say that you’d established a meet-up or a date with an HB for Saturday (let’s say that Saturday will be 2 nights from now).
What the average guy does in that situation [I’m guilty of this once in a blue], is to completely clear his schedule, kill all prior plans and bank on this 1 date to come to fruition.
I’d say that 90% of men in the western hemisphere are guilty of this (which is standard practice by the way).
When the date does fall through and the girl flakes (cancels), changes her plans, came up with a lame excuse, etc. you’ll be left in a fucking limbo wondering what went wrong, left without shit to do since you’d scrapped your previous plans for this date.
To counter this:
•Make sure you have other plans!
Be it a reserved date with another chic, or plans with your friends to go fist-pumping at a nightclub…
Whatever it may be, just make sure to make other plans.
Roosh would organize his to-do-list a day or so prior to date night.
I personally never made a to-do-list before (mentally nor physically). I just get out of bed and freestyle the rest of my day as most of us do. But from now on, I’ll make sure to establish a to-do-list, more so for days in which I have a meet-up with a girl.
Instead of sitting around waiting on “date time”, had you have a to-do-list, you would’ve been doing something else to occupy your time.
If the date doesn’t come through, then you can quite naturally fall back on what you had to do anyway (from your to-do-list).
Anything can be on this to-do-list.
Let’s say I have a planned date for Saturday night @ 9 PM.
I would fill out my to-do-list from the Friday night accordingly [this’ actually how my Saturdays go]:
9 AM: Look some breakfast.
11 AM: Watch some Saturday morning news programs.
1 PM: Do some in-house exercise (pushups, crunches, shadow boxing, etc.).
3 PM: Look something to eat.
5 PM: Maybe a nap.
7:30 PM: Write an article or 2 for the blog.
9 PM: Watch some HBO or Showtime boxing.
If boxing isn’t scheduled for that night, I’d make plans to go to the bar and nightclub.
So during the hours that I had a date established (9 PM), I would’ve been watching some boxing or getting ready to hit up some local bars.
If the date materializes, and the girl doesn’t cancel (@ 9 PM), then it’s all good- I’ll go on the date.
However, if she does flake, then fine! I had other shit that I wanted to do anyway (from my to-do-list). So the fact that the girl had flaked, wouldn’t be a blow to my self-esteem or ego.
Had I not have any other plans (be it minuscule or grandeur), I would be left to loaf around the PUA bachelor-pad in my briefs watching reruns of Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills [that shit is fucking painful LOL].
So take preemptive measure to handling flakes by making a to-do-list (via cellphone app, computer or old-fashion pen to pad).
Ensure that you have other plans and other shit to do in case the girl gets cold feet and cancels on you [most times, they don’t even call to cancel].
Push comes to shove and you’re totally fed up with flaky girls; just do what Kenny did the other night in the following video!
Check it out!
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